If any of you are like me, the prospect of getting rid of any of your books is scary and unwanted. It doesn’t help that I’ve always dreamed of having my very own personal library. Every book I give away seems to chisel away at that dream. Not to mention my lack of riches. You know, the riches that would buy the kind of space needed to house a personal library.
As it so happens, I just moved in with a friend and the space I have for books just got even smaller. I was suddenly faced with reducing my book collection (somewhere between 700 to 900 books, based on my Goodreads account) by a substantial amount. It was… Well, I still don’t like to think about it. But I’ll give you a tip. Do your book purges when you’re tired and only have a limited amount of time to get it done. I was a lot less likely to 1) start re-reading books as I went and 2) be sentimental. Not that there isn’t a place for sentimentality in a purge but, in the past, I’ve hung onto books for the weakest of reasons. This time my exhaustion made it easy to ignore that little voice inside urging me to KEEP THEM ALL.
In the end, I had two full bookcases marked to go. Eep! I’ll be honest, this is where I’ve faltered in the past. If I don’t get them out of the house fast enough, I break down and put a good portion of them back on my shelves. Good thing this time they had no opportunity to talk me into keeping them. The day after I finished sorting through them all, I had a big yard sale which included the books. At that point I was more interested in lightening the load we had to lug around town to different donation centers than making any money, so we put out big bags and offered to let people fill a bag with as many books as they fit for $2.

The book corner at my yard sale.
Note: This is a pretty awesome idea and I recommend it if you’re having a yard sale and mostly just want to clear house. Unfortunately, it wasn’t all that successful in this case. That or I just had too many books. Either way, the day went fast and the book pile never seemed to get significantly smaller.
Right after we set up shop, one of my neighbors wandered up the driveway with one of those folding portable grocery carts. It was Community Yard Sale weekend and she was making the rounds. She got very excited about the book pile. My friend (the one I moved in with), Mo, told her to not to worry about a bag, “Go ahead and fill your cart with as many as you want!” Neighbor Lady was dismayed and insisted she use a bag. Despite our reassurances that we didn’t mind, she felt like she’d be robbing us. Ha!
Eventually she filled her bag and headed off down the street, thanking us profusely as she went and promising to return later. When we saw her on her return trek, not long after, Mo told her to come back at noon when we’d be closing up and she’d be welcome to fill her cart with as many books as she could fit.
Meanwhile, as I said, book sales didn’t go so well. Pretty much everything else of value disappeared before noon but not those damn books. (Yes, I loved them and it was hard to give them up but at that point I was just dreading having to box them all back up and lug them across town to the library. Books are heavy. Damn books.)
But shortly before noon there she was, trekking down the street in our direction. She was extremely appreciative and as she pawed through the books she kept stopping to make sure it was really OK, “Are you sure? I’ve got a lot of books here!” “Yes, I’m positive.” “Are you REALLY sure?” “Really, really sure. I’m just happy someone else will get some enjoyment out of them. I promise!” And so it continued from there. Every few minutes she’d stop and ask again.
People came and went while she continued to pile books into her grocery cart. At one point Mo rearranged the books in the cart to free up some space for her making us all laugh. But finally she had filled it up and was once again thanking us profusely. It was at this point she insisted we all give her our attention.
You see, it turns out she’s had a very bad year. First her husband died, which was horrible but not terribly unexpected given their age. But then her (22 year old!) daughter had gotten cancer and died as well. Yes, a very bad year. She talked about how hard it’s been to adjust to life without them. How you aren’t supposed to outlive your children. How expensive things like that can be. And how hard it is to escape all of that.
But now? Reading these books will help give her a little escape, a way to occupy her mind with something other than what she’s lost. So, when she said she was grateful to us and went on and on about how much it meant to her, she really meant it. We had given her something to look forward to at a time when she doesn’t have much of that. Then she gave both Mo and I big hugs and, as we fought off tears, she trudged off down the road pulling her cart o’ books.
Books comfort me in a way few other things do. Even the ones I don’t love as much as others are hard to lose. But if you have to get rid of books? Knowing they’re giving someone else pleasure and an escape she so desperately needs? Not a bad way to say goodbye.














